Men having opinions on feminism, why don’t you stay in your lane. 

New MSc students starting are so happy right now


Anonymous asked: Why do you hate rishtas?

They’re not for me.

I find the process inherently superficial. You’ll never get to know perfectly capable individuals, may be more than others, because they don’t fit in the height category/education category/hair catergory etc. My parents have different criteria than me. They invite folks and I don’t get to talk to the guy, and then my parents will ask what I thought. Like what am I suppose to think if I dont know him? How do we approach the next step. Sometimes the next step is already consider too serious and definitive. Some people I know committed to marriage after the second meet. Also for me, I am instructed to not be too honest, and not ask this or that, because word will get back to the third party and then ~everyone will know~ 

If I was buying a laptop, this way would work. 

I have written about it here and there under ‘/tagged/rishta’ and ‘/tagged/marriage’


Lesson that’s easier said than learned (esp for young women): you don’t have to do anything you don’t want 

Please tag your photos of white men as such. Nobody wanna see it. 

My parents going against my express wishes to not look for rishtas for me is greatly stressing me out. I think I’m starting to have panic attacks because I feel like they will not budge. And that’s it’s only going to get worse in terms of pressure on me from here on as I get older for them. I don’t have many options.

If someone says ‘pedophiles are trash’ and your first instinct is to defend pedophiles, like ~~no they feel bad for it~~, where the hell are your priorities at. Seriously. Reconsider your life

Someone guessed I was 18-19. I’m happy with that.


"Idoles", Vogue France, April 1999Photographer : Herb RittsModel : Alek Wek


"Idoles", Vogue France, April 1999
Photographer : Herb Ritts
Model : Alek Wek

Harper saying missing and murdered Aboriginal women is not a sociological problem. Just wants to treat it as a crime, so no national inquiry.

I hate his face. Loatheeeee him. When’s that kamina gonna die.

what’s this I hear about Laverne Cox supporting a pedophile rapist

Girls learn to love and have sexual feelings in a position of low status, and the eroticization of powerlessness is a normal part of the construction of femininity.

Sheila Jeffreys, Unpacking Queer Politics 

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Things to understand…




None of this is done to girls *because they have vaginas*. It is done to girls because they are girls. It is done to women because they are women. And the act of saying that it happens to them because they have vaginas is part of the very system of oppression that also oppresses trans women: the patriarchy, which is what made that call and reinforces that idea.

As Friedrich Engels made clear, even before feminism’s First Wave, women were historically controlled because we are “a means of production”—without women, there are no heirs, and without heirs, no inherited property and wealth.  Women’s reproductive capacity is why we were colonized as property, just as animals, countries, weapons and land was colonized.  Otherwise, we wouldn’t have been important at all; any thing we could do (cooking, cleaning, sewing clothes) could have been done as well by men (and in the military, it was).  The reason women were oppressed was to control our REPRODUCTIVE ABILITIES.  This does not mean all women had these abilities, but women were assumed to have them until proven otherwise.  (In many religious traditions, a woman’s “barren” status was the only acceptable reason for divorce.)

There can be no other logical, rational basis for women’s oppression; unless you think men were just being “mean” or something.  No, it was for a very real, profit-centered reason.  Men without families and heirs could not build empires (or even working farms) and without this centralized, religiously-sanctioned consolidation of the family, the state could not have evolved.  The state then effectively empowered men to be women’s keepers until very very recently in human history.  

THIS is the origin of women’s oppression.  

So yes, women’s oppression is because of vaginas.  Also: uteri, ovaries, ovum and menstrual cycles.  That is just a fact.  This is what got us consigned to the lower class, and our vulnerability during pregnancy and childbirth is historically what kept us weak and dependent on men.  And this is how patriarchy evolved.  

To write “vaginas” (or other female body-parts necessary for baby-making) out of the history of patriarchy and the evolution of the state, is flatly incorrect.  

It is also anti-feminist, since this account effectively erases the one thing women were allowed to do, the one exception to our limitations:   birthing and raising children.  Anything women dared to do, had to be somehow connected to that.  So, the first women artists and writers were women who painted their children’s portraits; sang their kids songs or made up stories and poems for them; knitted/crocheted/sewed their clothes, created pottery for the family to eat on, etc.  Women’s creativity was harshly limited to domesticity like this, and yet, we found ways to express ourselves regardless.  It is a story of SURVIVAL.  To explain to our daughters (as Virginia Woolf did) why there is no female Shakespeare or Chaucer, is to go back to….. VAGINA.  We were only allowed to have babies and failing that, teach or take care of some other woman’s babies.  Period.  

Because yes, that is the historical reason we were oppressed.  BODIES.  VAGINAS.

I do not want to oppress trans women, but I do not want to erase the history of the SOURCE of women’s oppression.   In your comments and in the comments of certain other Tumblr trans women, I see a continuous attempt to do that.  


It is deliberately anti-feminist and seeks to erase women’s history.

Just because you don’t like the existence of vaginas, does not mean that you can rearrange history to make them unimportant.